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Thanks alot...continue to read them all yah
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I've been stuck and takboleh move on for more about 10 years. Org tu dah elok kawin ada anak... i je mcm org bodoh stuck lagi dekat sini. How easy for people to love and conquer and broke the heart. |
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Omg...seriously? 10 years? Haizzz......
Apalah yg tak boleh move on lama2 ni? No matter what, live goes on...nobody will pity us...only will be called stupid for waiting for notjing...paham?
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That was what i thought. Tp believe me... move on is not as easy for certain people like me. I mean... kita dh bg seluruh hati kita pada dia. 3 tahun je bercinta tp 10 tahun nye suffer. Jadi lelaki senangkan, senang2 bagi hati pada org lain. Hati sy satu je, tu pon dia carik2 sampai takde secebis pon yg tinggal...I leave everything to Allah. I dah redha, lagi redha bila tengok dia dh bahagia.
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Well...how are u suppose to let go when u are still stalking him...how do u know hes married with kids?
Kalau I tanya kat thread ni siapa yg pernah rejected dari ex bf sebelum ni, hampir semua yg angkat tangan..hampir semua yg hard to move on.....tapi hampir semua yg dah kawin dgn lelaki baru dan ada anak
Rejected I memang pernah..banyak kali...tapi so what..one month, 2 month atau 6 month, u will have to start a new life..rather than self pity urself
Then ppl will respect us for moving on
And u dont leave it to god but do nothing at all to find a new one for u..hes not gonna drop a guy from the sky...and he definately not wanting to see u suffer for 10 yrs...its all in our hands
Mcm example u drive a car...if u leave it to god to get u to the destination, why put ur hand on the steering wheel? It is u that drives the car and hope god will bring u to the destination safe
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Bknnya i takpernah try nk moved on... banyak kali... tp bila kita sedar yg kita bersama dgn org lain tp hati takdak dekat dia...how supposed it goes? so i walked away... and stop trying...org akn ckp sb i takbuka hati i untuk terima org lain...and giving myself another opportunity to love again... Yes i didn't. I taknak ambil risiko. Lagipon, i jenis yg susah nk syg org...and ever since then i'm kind of having this trust issue. No one is bother utk jaga hati u but urself. Dulu ya i have all my heart for him...but now i have all of my heart for me. Once is enough, i taknak repeat the same mistake again. Mmg sometimes i stalked him, just to remind myself that how hard i really need to let go and start a new chapter. I maybe belom jumpa org yg betol2 serasi dgn i... my eldest sister dah married, soonest my younger... but my mom she once and for all said that it's okay... she won't force and she won't ask...because dia taknak i menyesal kawin dgn org yg i takboleh nk bahagia. My dad is freaking out everytime he's thinking about my future... sb ayah risau if the same thing happened to me again. I went to a college where near to my ex uni. It was like 10 hours far from my family... i wanted to went there, sb nak duduk dekat dgn dia...nak belajar sekali... he was in final semester and we even planned to get married soon after i'm graduated. I have left another couple years. And masa we broke up, my dad mmg freaking out. He called me 5 times a day and asked me transfer belajar dekat sikit dgn dia...I refused to do so... And since then, dia takot bila i dekat dgn mana2 lelaki. And 2 years ago, he had a dream i marrying somebody... next day dia called i tnya if i'm hiding something from him. Everyone around me takot kalau i akn hadap lagi benda yg sama sb mmg keadaan i terok sgt on that time. So now, i just pray that a very one fine day, i will finally meet my soulmate. Tp susah nak cari lelaki yg baik, boleh bimbing kita and love us setulus hati.
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hey hey...thank you for reading. if you want to know more about me, pls PM me...tak nak reveal kat open thread sini
Harap paham ye
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memang tepat sangkaan saya.
u belum bukak hati u and probably tak akan buka....mungkin sampai one day when u finally feel lonely, then maybe that tie u akan no choice tapi cari satu...mungkin jugak masa tu u akan desperate sampai mugkin akan pilih org yg salah...
setiap manusia, setiap insan, bila dah jatuh, kenalah bangun....takkan lah dah fail satu kali, terus kat lantai dan tak akan bangun
now its not a matter of if u can find a good man...dah banyak yg datang dalam hidup u...tapi u aja yg reject semua...
All the best to you...semua yg patut i advice dah advice....its up to u to make a decision, rather than giving excuses to urself.
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perhubungan jarak jauh memang banyak cabaran
tapi hubungan dekat tapi jauh sangat menyeksakan |
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Lol...pls kindly explain "hubungan dekat tapi jauh" with examples...
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Edited by onexox97 at 15-3-2017 09:25 PM
winsonyu replied at 15-3-2017 08:44 PM
Lol...pls kindly explain "hubungan dekat tapi jauh" with examples...
biasa la
merujuk pada ke husband and wife sebumbung
nama je sebumbung tapi takda sentuhan tiada komunikasi tiada perhubungan
ada macam takda
takda lagi baik
yg ada hanya lah status suami isteri anak2
nampak lah di mata org happy family padahal takpun |
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oh...itu maksud u...yup...very much agree.. yg itu lagi menyeksakan and it will slowly kill u
status kawin tapi tak boleh buat apa yg u suka sbb status tu
Anyway sounds like ure in that situation since u descrive it so well..
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winsonyu replied at 15-3-2017 10:05 PM
oh...itu maksud u...yup...very much agree.. yg itu lagi menyeksakan and it will slowly kill u
sta ...
off course la
boleh tengok thread sy di board fd, complicated gitu |
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Oh...thread suami bipolar
Yeah...memang sangat2 challenging
Cant help u with that sbb no experience with this
I cuma boleh komen based on my experiences aja
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betul.. mmg menyeksakan..
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Post time 21-6-2017 03:19 PM
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Up balik post ni utk sesiapa yg belum baca ni |
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Post time 27-6-2018 03:04 PM
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Communication is the only way
One of the worse thing that can happen is when a woman is not open to share her feeling openly to her partner but expects that man to understand her. Let me tell u this, it will never happen. I always say that guys are the dumbest creature on earth(no pun intended). Why? Coz we dont read minds like in the series Criminal Mind, we dont have a Masters in PSychology and we are definately not psychic. So that leaves us with full of ?????? in our head.
Most guys including me dont want the emotional drama coz we like it simple. We like our partners to tell us whats going in her mind, straightforward, no spinoff of "Do you wannna be a millionaire" type of questions. Just clear simple answers to why are u sad, why are u angry, whats wrong, etc. Ironically after years of preaching about communication between partners, a woman told me that the women sometimes cant answer is becoz they themselves do not even know the answer. Thats a fact I cannot deny too. We see alot of millenials right up to 30s that are being slaves to emotions. Something that when it comes, its hard to control. No reason, no explanation. Some girls here will know what im talking here.
But then, there are solutions to it. And its not the "pls control ur emotion" lesson. Its about telling ur partner ure in that emotional phase and would like some quiet time. Guys will understand this and let u have ur me time. Or even, openly discuss what emotional issues that ure having. Let it out so that the guy is not left standing with ???? That is why open communication, 2 way conversation helps to understand each other. Guys need this every step of the way. And then all has been said and that guy still do not understand, kick his balls and throw him out...hahhaha...kidding... well, some girls have known these kinda guy too.
My ex when I knew her was not that type of openly sharing her emotions. I had a hard time understanding her at first. There bound to be cold war every month... which will last for a few days...after a while, I began to understand thats her style...and that after a few days she will be fine...and how she explains to me is not face to face...but a written email...over time, I accepted this coz at least I understood what happen, and that writing email to explain to me is her method to be able to express freely whats in her mind and heart. Thats alright, anything goes as long as communication is there. However there is another short cut way and that is to share it immediately to ur partner. Saves so much time, u guys can talk about it, understand each other, give assurance to the issue or just being her emotional support and then hug and kiss...faster isnt it? |
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Post time 27-6-2018 03:05 PM
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Foreplay is the key
In another forum that I mentioned earlier, I hear alot of women, especially that complains they dont get enough of foreplay. Especially married couples where when sex becomes routine, it was just the husband start by getting their wife to bj them and then straight to sex. And after the guy cums, the wife is left there, just about to warm up her engine and wham, game over. Also, when the women is not in the mood, you cant expect her to feel horny to bj the guy. Its the same concept of a girl cant expect to have sex with the guy without giving him a blow job or hand job to make him hard and horny.. I mean lets be fair, in these modern times now, women appreciates and live sex and foreplay as much as a guy does. And someone ask me isnt a guy suppose to know this? Well, not all guys watch porn, some guys are just selfish for their own satisfaction and some guys are just plain lazy to do it. Sorry to say this but it is a reality for some
So what is foreplay then? To me, its an act of getting a women to be turned on sexually first before getting into sex. Now, what im about to write is based on my own understanding, my style and experience. Many ppl out there will have different view and experiences of how to turn a women on.
I like to go massages and I normally dont sleep during that time. So after a while, I know and enjoyed massaging women because it is a great way to make them feel relaxed, and of course feel horny too. Men and women feels that. Besides this, how I would like my foreplay is to have an intimate kiss which will turn into french kiss, then continue to kiss her neck, shoulder, behind the neck, slowly move down to the chest and slowly licking her nipples(to some they enjoy it but to some,it may be ticklish). Then after that to the stomach, then down to the inner thigh, to the knee and back to the inner thigh. By then. Alot of women will be wet already. After this then only I will start by licking the clitoris and sometimes while doing so fingering her as well. My intention will be to make her cum a few times first, hopefully. Why is that? Coz not many women can orgasm through sex. Some easily and most dont. So even when during sex which I may not be able to make the women cum(things happen sometimes), at least both will come out satisfied...in the end... Well, thats good right?
Also, once a woman already cum once or a few times, she is already very turn on and is more willing now to turn on a man....willingly. Thats where the fun begins. So sometimes, a little effort can do more wonders in the love making. |
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Post time 27-6-2018 03:34 PM
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Accepting your ex back...yay or nay
This is quite an interesting topic...as we hear it sometimes the guy or girl goes back into the relationship with the ex...I can quite accept it if they broke up coz the timing was wrong or something external may have kept them apart for some reason...but in my honest opinion, I wont agree if its due to arguments or character or attitude difference that led to the break up..even bad sex
A new friend of mine here put it so accurately....its not compromising or expecting a person to change, which most cant especially character and attitude becoz its already in us...but its more of acceptance...whether u can accept him/her for what they are...if you can then go ahead...but if you cant, expecting him or her to change is almost impossible...what they are or who they are is already ingrained in the DNA....of coz some manage to change...but expecting or hoping to change?
So to me, if breakup due to not able to accept his/her for what and who they are...and if u do get back together again some day...chances are that history may repeat itself...and u get heartbroken again...the 2nd time..why put urself in that situation...we hear the saying "there are many fishes in the sea" or "bad ones dont go, good ones dont come". We also so often hear that there is a reason for something to happen and becoz of that, something good appears. This is my new principle in life coz it had happen to me.
We all had let go of someone in the past...lets bury the past...move on with our lives and start over...this is the fundamental principle of the circle of life...a ferris wheel if you may...do not hold on to the past or it will eat u up alive...slowly but surely...learn to let go for I promise there will be someone better and greater for u...waiting to enter your life. |
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Choices in life
Hey all. Hope all is good for everyone here. Its a long ass weekend. Its been a while ive written over here. Couldnt think of a toic to write till now.
So I have a friend who got dumped by his gf last year due to some reason and he now has a new gf, but in a long distance relationship. This new girl loves him a lot but he hasnt love her fully yet. When they were still daiting, she wants to go steady but the guy hasnt made up his mind. So I told him, "its great to be loved by someone more and u love her. Why dont you just accept her. And if it doesnt work out, at least u have tried, rather than make her wait". He did accept her, but now feels that he doesnt love her as much. Maybe coz my friend is still young, acceptable looking and feels he may be able to find a better girl put there to be his soul partner.
I told him, life is but a gamble. We go through life thinking if we have studied in the right college or uni. If we had bought the right car or house. If we had found the right gf or soul partner etc. To me, all this doesnt matter. What matters is you only live once. As long as we do not regret the choice we make. To live life forward instead of constantly regretting our decisions. Regret or the "if only" thought will haunt us forever and prevent us from being a better person. Like the chinese saying "old dont go, new dont come". Most of the time this holds true. Live a happy life rather than be stress our whole lives.
Another thing is this. To have someone who love u more than u love the person is the best thing in life. Why? Coz one thing is for sure, you will not be disappointed or feeling sad in the relationship. Too bad I havent found someone who like that. Im the one who always love that person more, to give her my undivided attention. Ppl like this tend to be more romantic as he or she will tend to think a lot of surprises for that person. Coz seeing the other person's surprise and appreciative face when receiving that surprise is the greatest happiness.
I wish you all a great weekend. TGIF.
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Post time 10-3-2017 02:40 AM
