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This Is the Real Reason Your Friend Always Humblebrags, According to Experts

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Post time 31-12-2017 08:15 PM | Show all posts |Read mode
Edited by solarlunar at 31-12-2017 08:16 PM

Think your diamond rings are too heavy for your tiny fingers? Well, it's one thing to think it—go ahead, we won't judge—but say it aloud, and it's called a "humblebrag." And nobody wants to hear it.

Poor, bewildered Patti Stanger: Bravo’s Millionaire Matchmaker just can’t understand why men find her gorgeous when she’s wearing no makeup. And pity sweet Emma Watson, who more than a decade into her career as an international movie star, still isn’t comfortable with all the attention. You might not be aware of their “suffering,” except they told us about it on Twitter, probably with the intention of presenting themselves in a positive, yet humble, light. You know, a brag… but a humble one.

The humblebrag, as it’s called, first appeared in print in 2002 and is now among the words recently added to the dictionary. In fact, those two tweets were culled from this collection of celebrity humblebrags, with the introduction, “Did they really just tweet that?”

The truth is: No one likes a humblebrag. You know that in your gut. But it’s also a scientific fact, thanks to an ongoing study out of Harvard Business School that is the first scientific investigation of the phenomenon of humblebragging. As a means of presenting ourselves in a positive light, humblebragging is entirely ineffective, according to the study authors, Francesca Gino, PhD, Michael I. Norton, PhD, of Harvard Business School, and Ovul Sezer, PhD, who earned her doctorate at Harvard Business School and is an assistant professor at UNC’s Kenan-Flagler Business School.

“People don’t like when others humblebrag because they find it insincere,” Dr. Sezer told Reader’s Digest. Sincerity is a critical dimension of social evaluation…it’s seen as fundamental to people’s identity.” In other words, people care whether you’re being sincere or fake. In fact, people prize sincerity even above competence and warmth in others, according to Dr. Sezer. “The problem with humblebrags is twofold: When someone humblebrags, people can see the brag, and they don’t like it. On top of that, they can see the attempt to hide it, which they recognize as insincere.” For that reason, humblegragging backfires.

In fact, humblebragging, whether cloaked in a complaint (as in Watson’s complaint about being uncomfortable with her fame) or in humility (as in Stanger’s bewilderment over men finding her bare face so beautiful), is “less effective than straightforward bragging,” according to the study. So, if humblebragging doesn’t work, and no one likes it, why do we still do it? Or more to the point, why do our friends?

We all want to highlight our positive qualities without seeming arrogant, Dr. Sezer explains. By tossing in a complaint or an expression of humility, we hope we’ll somehow land on the “sweet spot” of self-presentation: promoting ourselves while also conveying likability. In addition, the research suggests that people may experience positive emotions while humblebragging.
Given that we’re all susceptible to the urge to humblebrag, at least to some extent, as Dr. Sezer points out, the proper response when we hear a friend doing it may be to simply let it go—because eventually we’re going to do it ourselves, and who really wants to be called out on it?



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 Author| Post time 31-12-2017 08:17 PM | Show all posts
According to the article, kalu ade kwn2 yg humblebrag, biarlah depa.

Sbb kite pun ade kemungkinan wt benda yg sama.

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Post time 31-12-2017 09:09 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Emma akk kenal.sorang lg who r yus.tepek la gambo.mls nk Google
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 Author| Post time 31-12-2017 10:12 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
noraidil_06 replied at 31-12-2017 09:09 PM
Emma akk kenal.sorang lg who r yus.tepek la gambo.mls nk Google

http://www.news.com.au/entertainment/celebrity-life/the-best-humblebrags-from-celebrities/news-story/7aa1242b877a19608019363c78e14bae

Akak try click link. Kot kot kalu ade twit die. Haha. Saya pun tak kenal.

Hahah.
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