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How Disconnected Are You? As Husband and Wife...
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You may be in a marriage, but you are never actually there......
You may not be legally divorced, but that does not mean you have not already been divorced emotionally, spiritually, sexually and economically.
So wat say you? Are you in it......or you a out???? |
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Originally posted by kiwimerah at 12-11-2007 09:19 AM 
apa aji merapu ni?
bijak ke kalau kata cinta macam kaset? 
err..aku rasa bijak kot
sebabnyak...kita kena selalu rewind balik (ingatkan diri sendiri)..macam mana kita boleh jatuh cinta..kenapa kita jatuh cinta..apa ciri2 dia yg menyebabkan kita jatuh cinta...apa kelebihan dia yg menyebabkan kita pilih dia..and bermacam2 lagi lahhh
bila kita ingat mende2 tu semua balik...sedikit sebanyak segala masalah or rintangan yg ada, rasa cam takde ler beso mana pun..  |
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Relationship evolves.........Dalam konteks kehidupan hari ini....... even crimes out there are getting more complex, tidak terkecuali juga dgn kehidupan suami isteri hari ini.....
Sikap bertolak ansur, bersabar, bertoleransi dan sebagainya adalah antara ukurtara yg sering kita kaitkan ngan pegangan yg harus kita ada dalam menjalin hubungan somi-isteri yg baik???????
"Dyssfunctional husband-wife" relationship?? Ever cum across this phrase???? Well to me, there should not be an existence of this phrase, coz Manak strongly feels dat each relationship is always evolving, in continual search to function at its best...and in its own way.......But unfortunately, budaya org kita......."Aku letih and drain out lah beb......tak kosa nak pikir lagi......."
Gooossshhh....Manak sambung lagi nanti lah...... |
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Reply #6 manakautau's post
memang ada macam ni hidup diorang dah macam robot, pergi kerja asing asing, weekend pun masing masing buat hal sendirik,
rasa rasa diorang dah sampai stage complacent, dah takde apa apa lagi yg diorang nak capai ...... |
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.... an extraordinary costs for a marriage .......agreeing to stay in marriage when something powerful in u wants to withdraw....... seems lost and doing so for the sake of the children...... ala2 cam thread stayer-leaver ana_una tuh...... |
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aku lum kahwin lagi...
pe maksud disconnected?
badan ade tapi hati tiada di situ? |
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...ever heard of the love bank??...a christian brother once said to me...inside everyone of us...there exists a love bank...with accounts in the names of everyone yang kita sayangi...dan bila kita dah berkawin...the main account holder would definitely be our other half...and setiap kali dia membuat kita rasa happy...kita akan depositkan satu markah dalam love bank kita tu...katakan dia memberi kita suatu kejutan sempena anibersery kita...kita kasi dia 2 markah...bila dia masakkan kita dinner...kita kasi dia 3 markah...bila dia belikan kita tiffany ring...kita kasi dia 10 markah...and it goes on and on...kita akan keep on depositing markah demi markah mengikut ngan the things yang dia lakukan yang membuat kita senang...dan...semakin banyak markah yang kita depositkan...semakin penuh our love bank will be...bererti...semakin sayang dan cinta sokmo kita padanya...
....but...on the other hand...kalau dia selalu abuse kita verbally...kita akan tolak 1 markah from our love bank...kalau dia bersms ngan pompan lain...kita tolak 2 markah...kalau dia terkantoi beraffair ngan orang lain...kita tolak 3 markah...kalau dia kawin lain...kita tolak 10 markah...lama2...love bank kita akan susut...bererti..rasa sayang kita makin pudar...rasa cinta kita makin tipis...which eventually membuat kita menjadi semakin distant...semakin disconnected...
...so...untuk mengelakkan agar love bank kita nie senantiasa penuh dan berisi dan tidak akan jatuh muflis...kita kenalah berusaha untuk membuat pasangan kita senang dan happy...cherishing our other half 24/7...but satu perkara yang interesting to note about this love bank is that different husbands and wives register deposits dan withdrawal differently...what may be a 'good thing' to the hubby may be a 'not so good thing' to the wife...thus...instead of a deposit of one good point into the love bank as expected by the hubby it may ended up with the wife giving a minus point to the hubby...
...sebab itu...it is very important for us to noe our partner well...to be aware of his likings...and dislikes...and to be aware of the different ways we react with each other...dan sebab itu jugak...maintaining good communication ngan pasangan kita is very2 important...cos...thru communication kita bley tau whether our spouse's love bank is full with our deposits or whether our deposits is depleting...
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makteh aku idup cenggini...stay in marriage tp lantak ko lah nak buat apa. aku x peduli. ko pun jgn nak peduli apa aku buat. anak2 dah lali dgn life mak pak dorang. tp ni semua jd sbb pokteh aku tuh byk bt hal. account dr love bank wife n anak2 dia dah infiniti. |
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makteh aku idup cenggini...stay in marriage tp lantak ko lah nak buat apa. aku x peduli. ko pun jgn nak peduli apa aku buat. anak2 dah lali dgn life mak pak dorang. tp ni semua jd sbb pokteh aku tuh byk bt hal. account dr love bank wife n anak2 dia dah infiniti. |
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Reply #14 lindasam's post
kalo ade problem mmg kahwin pun dh tak kisah...kau kau.. aku aku...
nk hidup lame tapi tersiksa cmtu.. |
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aku mmg mentally & emotionally disconnected dari laki aku. aku pernah cakap relationship kitorang macam housemates. balik rumah sama, makan benda sama, tolak ansur keje rumah. tapi takde cinta-cinta, kasih sayang, manja-manja.... dia senyum poyo je!
aku BUHHHHHHHSAAAAAANNNNNNNN  |
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Dah tetua gamaknya segan nak naik turun mahkamah.
Malu dengan orang sekeliling lagi.
Malu dengan anak cucu.
Mungkin dedulu dah bersumpah sehidup semati gamaknya, so kalau nak cerai kang takut kena panah halilintar pulok. So, tunggu je la sampai berkarat. |
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~Siaran ulangan~ 
[ Last edited by Madiey at 13-11-2007 12:06 PM ] |
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Originally posted by manakautau at 12-11-2007 02:58 AM 
How Disconnected Are You? As Husband and Wife...
You may be in a marriage, but you are never actually there......
You may not be legally divorced, but that does not mean you have not already been divorced emotionally, spiritually, sexually and economically.
So wat say you? Are you in it......or you a out????
never feel disconnected with my spouse emotionally, spiritiually, sexually or economically..
disconnected physically every week-n tu ada laaa.... |
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kekadang terasa gak esp kalo dateline dia berbaris dgn o/station selang 2 minggu....emotionally disconnected
take it positively, i have time to be with my frens and the kids...have my own time to read, to lepak, to malas-malas......kekekek
hujung bulan, i mintaklah apa2 yg patut sebagai token sebab behaving good masa dia tgh biol2 camtu |
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Reply #20 my-alja's post
betul tu alja.
time husband not around la, kita have time to be totally with kids, ada xtra time, communicate with frends pulak..and best of all, tido timeeeeeee, berjam2 i tido whem my hubby's not around.. |
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Post time 12-11-2007 02:58 AM
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