he is still with you cuz he doesnt want to hurt you

donkeylady

Hi semua,

selalu i baca je masalah2 org lain. sekarang ni dah terkena batang hidung sendiri. tak tahu nak buat ape..pls give me advice
to those yg baca post nih

i dah couple ngan my bf nak masuk 2 tahun. kita dah pernah putus 3 kali (my bf yg nakputus). so 3kali lah i patah hati, kecewa because of him.

recently i asked him a question are u still in love with me? (its just a random qn, cos i thought he is madly in love with me)
he said : yes, but its not going the way that i want it to be.
i asked: what do u mean?
he said: im not being myself when im with u.
i asked: so y are u still with me?
he said: i dunno.. and i dun wanna hurt u anymore.

what kind of answer is that? i mean, dia masih ngan i just becos dia taknak lukakan hati i. it shouldnt be this way ape. i thought dia nak ckp pasal i masih sygkan u ke ape ke. tapi dia ckp pasal dia taknak lukakan hati i.

i tak sangka jawapan dia begitu mengecewakan. i tak tahu macam mana nak berhadapan dengan dia. i rasa macam i tak boleh bahagiakan dia. like he is not happy with me. ever since he told me that yesterday, i couldnt sleep and i've been weeping all night long.

what is the future of this relationship of mine? are we on the verge of breaking up?

pls guys... men and women, pls give me ur perspective on this issue.

yaminz

Cam nak minta break up jea ngan awk....

badreena

kenapa dia xnk lukakan hati awak...kan kerana sayang.....takkan dia bencikan awak lak...berterus terang la dgn dia..apa sebenarnya yg awak rasa..itu lebih baik drp dok berteka2 apakah maksud percakapannya tu...

alaa

haah.. tanye la ape sebenarnye maksud die.
tp jgn sampai cam emndesak plak. tensen kang..

eden_disha

rasanya yg ada dlm hati dia cume simpati kot..
bukan rasa sayang lagi..
dia mau menjaga hati awk thats y dia still couple dgn awk
bahaya la tu wak..simpati n sayang is diffrent
better awk lepaskan dia..
baik la awk break secara baik..
dari jwpn dia tu awk pn dh patut fhm mksud dia
mybe awk n dia sesuai berkawan biasa
kawan pn still blh caring each other right?
jangan susahkan dri memasing
selagi blm ada ikatan ni baik la undurkan diri..
xde la awk or dia merana kemudian hari
awk fkir la mane yg baik utk future memasing..

rileks

soh la dia jadi diri dia bila dgn u..

tgk keadaan nya camne..

jazz4luv

aduhai..mcm2 la masalah org bercinta ni

polaris_girlz

cam ni lah aku hadapi masa 1st love dulu :cry:

Masa awal2 dl.....mmg bahgia.....lama2 dah jadi cam lain...
sampai masa tu kitaorg dah pernh clash...tp pastu smbg balik....
tp lepas smbg tu jadi cam lain skit....
aku slalu tanya dia solan camtu....yap, mmg dia kata dia syg..
tp aku heran , nape kalo syg buat aku camtu....tp dlm masa yg
sama kitaorg masih lagi bersama....

Cuma satu hari aku dah mula sedar, yg dia sbnrnya mmg nak
putus dgn aku...cuma xbrani nak luahkan kat aku....sbb dia
xnak luka kan hati aku...Jadi dia teruskan lah hubungan tue...
dlm hati dia, cuma dia je yg tau.....tp tindak tanduk dia, aku tau
dia xhappy....

Akhirnya aku wat keputusan, Lepaskan lah dia.... :cry:
Aku dah penat bertahan...aku xhappy dan dia pon xhappy....
aku rs cam xadil lak nak pksa dia terus dgn aku andai hati dia
dah xrela... (rela pon kerna keterpaksaan) seolah2 aku cam
seksa jiwa dia.....

pada waktu tu aku just berpegang,
Cinta perlukan pengorbanan, kalo dgn meninggalkan dia....boleh buat dia
rasa senang dan bebas... Maka itu lah yg aku lakukan....
ada gak time tu aku pk, kalo dia bahgia, aku turut bahgia <--- tipuuu jekk
tp setidak2nya, bukan kedua2 pihak tertekan....salah sorg kena
berkorban.....

Lama2 sume tu tinggal sejarah

sekian
~Catatan Duka polaris~

hitamputih

truth bout men, when we say we love u, it means we love u. period.

dont go complex rocket science i love you because u make me feel brand new or whatsoever.we love u. done.

questioning deeper question will only bring more question.


something to share

The Man Rules ..... At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down, Finally , the guys' side of the story. (I must admit, it's pretty good.) We always hear "the rules" From the female side. Now here are the rules from the male side. These are our rules! Please note.. these are all numbered "1 " > ON PURPOSE!
1. Men are NOT mind readers.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down.牋You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it! . Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one
1. You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during commercials..
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine... Really .
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as soccer or racing.
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight; But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping

[ Last edited by  hitamputih at 24-9-2008 01:04 PM ]

donkeylady

thanks everyoneforur opinion and advice.

yeah.. i sort of seeing my relatinship crumble away. well, it hapenned so many times. masuk ni the 4th time.

but the problem is im happy with him. well maybe i dunno how to differentiate happiness and being comfortable.

thx for the post on man rules.

1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear. <--- GOSH. cant they just give the answer that we want! being honest tak bertempat betul.

donkeylady

1) should i ignore this and pretend nothing happened? and back to our normal daily lives.

2) or should i talk to him abt it? i've done this and it lead to a break up.

3) should we have a time off from each other?

4) should ignore him for a while and see how he reacts? ( as in dun replymsgs n calls)

5) should i just let him go? goshh..

[ Last edited by  donkeylady at 24-9-2008 01:36 PM ]

Friiz

brilliant!

yg aku paham, pakwe ko ni mcm tepakse being nice bile dgn ko. kalu tak nnt ko mengamuk, merajuk etc. die sygkan ko, so die turutkan je la ape yg ko nk.

contoh mcm, die tingin nk lepak mamak lyn bola, tp sbb ko x minat bola, tepakse la mkn kat secret recipe.

ko ade camtu ke tak?

papehal kalu nk break up.. aku support hahahaha. buang mase jek kapel neh

donkeylady

eh frizz. now i think u are brilliant.

betullah tu. exactly like what u say.

hmm... mcmane nak pulihkan keadaan eh?

eden_disha

saya pilih jawapan no 4

sbb xblh nk pentingkan diri kan...cinta x blh dipaksa

Friiz

pendapat aku, time kapel ni, sme mende kene fair n square. tak mcm da kawin, yg mane laki je yg wajib kuar nafkah. kalu takat kapel, bab mkn, kekadang ko la plak blanje. duit minyak sme, kengkdg kene la tontong.

at least, kurangkn wat mende2 membazir, cm tgk wayang. ye ar, pakwe ko tu nnt nk kene carik duit nk kawin ngan ko. nnt ko gak nk hantaran ribu-riban. so kalu nk dating, takat minum2 sambil borak2 kat kopitiam dahla skang ni. kalu ko stay ngan famili ko, lg elok kalu ko ajak die dinner ngan famili ko jek.

hahaha, boring tak kapel? kawin jek la cepat2 hehehe~

anonymous5050

rupenye btul la cite2 dlm drama tu....
mmg berlaku dlm real life...
xnk break up, coz nk jage ati la ape2 la...hmmm

bf anda = -ve (sbb simpati je)
anda = +ve (sygkn dia)

if

bf anda (-ve) + anda (+ve) = xbahagia(-ve)

hohohohoho...ntah pape jek aku ni...

hitamputih

Originally posted by Friiz at 24-9-2008 02:25 PM
pendapat aku, time kapel ni, sme mende kene fair n square. tak mcm da kawin, yg mane laki je yg wajib kuar nafkah. kalu takat kapel, bab mkn, kekadang ko la plak blanje. duit minyak sme, kengkdg牋...

haha aku setuju bro.
to tuan umah

i think, u shud cherish the love more, and start by giving more expecting less. dont expect him to be around 24/7. take ur time. njoy ur hobby. in the same time, love love love him so. stop expecting him to change, to be more , to give more, to love more.

sometime love come in many ways.....not by loving full heartedly, but by understanding and by being together in high and low. not by spending each seconds holding hands, but by silent agreement and spaces for longing.

dont think too much, C'est la vie!!

zod

Persamaan Serentak ke ni.
Thread Starter try ikut haluan BF.
Agak-agak dah tak boleh..hmm..paham-paham aje la.

hitamputih

bukan (-ve) + (+ve) = neutral ker?

anonymous5050

hahahaha...tu klu kimia la....  tp klu kimia, cas (-ve) n (+ve) mmg saling mnarik la plak.....means, dorg akan bahagia...
tp klu math...xleh2...jd (-ve)..so, xbahagia...

xpn amik progrmming pny lak..

boolean simpati = true;
string couple;

if(simpati)
{
   couple = bahagia;
}
else

  couple = !bahagia;


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dh mngarut je ni........

[ Last edited by  anonymous5050 at 24-9-2008 03:51 PM ]