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kena ada sacrifices between the two of u. kendian.. tolong la diskas dgn bakal laki ko psl apa yg ko tak puas hati. just lay it out on the table. gaduh pun biar gaduh besar sebelum kawen.. jgn lepas kawen baru nak meluah rasa terpendam pastu masing2 tak puas hati, tak hepi dgn marriage pastu cerai berai. takmo la gitu. korg duduk la face to face.. diskas & kalau boleh, give and take la mana yg dapat. ko korban 1, dia kena korban jugak. jgn semua ko je berkorban atau dia sorg je.. not fair. tujuan kawen nak sampai mati kalau ada jodoh.. ko pun cakap sayang nak lepaskan laki mcm dia. da 7 tahun kot? insyaAllah ok..
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Edited by AshkieLa at 17-7-2017 11:38 AM
communication between husband and wife is very important walaupun benda tidbits selain tolerate.
ni belum kawen dah tunjuk ciri2 bossy.. dah kawen lagi la ade kuasa veto atas tiket 'isteri derhaka'..
karang tak tahu ape pulak yg tak kena.
ini mau bila dah kawen, ko nak cerita hal2 kecik just utk luahkan bagi release stress pun dia tak sudi mendengar sbb lom kawen pun dia dah tunjukkan ciri2 tak mahu dengar.
apepun discuss laa leklok2. kalau tak berjalan dengan baik..
belum terlambat utk tarik diri.. good luck
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Post time 17-7-2017 11:38 AM
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melinda_kerr replied at 17-7-2017 11:27 AM
Girl, i rasakan you dah tahu semua jawapan kot apa hati you nak. Awalnya you cerita his bad sides ...
Hi melinda,
Yes of course i do love him. 7 years relationship kan tipu lah tak sayang. But I have to be fair. To share the bad and good sides of him. And differentiate either it is worth to stay or leave.
To start over again with random guys dan tak tahu their stories yet made me think twice to leave actually. |
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Tanda tanda kalau kahwin jugak nanti, you akan makan hati. Kalau u sanggup, do proceed. Kalau tidak, do go separate ways. Makan hati selepas kahwin ni lagi teruk dari makan hati sebab tak kahwin. |
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bukan sbb kucing. tp najis kucing. ada kuman nama toxoplasma apa tah kebenda... sbb tu perempuan mengandung/ plan nak mengandung dinasihatkan berhati2 masa nak buang taik kucing. kalau nak main kucing okay ja... iols tau sbb doc penah tanya ada kucing tak kat rumah bila tgk result darah iols. rupanya ada kuman tu. tp nasib baik tak efek my fertility.
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Uolls..U knal 10 tahun pon xkan sama lepas korang kahwin..kalau skrg pon dia wat prangai haprak tu prcayalah,lpas kahwin akn lebih haprak..no tolerance n xbole bwak bincang ni akn jadi ur main problem after u both married nanti..trust me..been there done that.makan hati berulam jantung nanti u..ni baru isu kecik,u dah beranak pinak nanti macam mana..akn ada bnyak lagi isu2 bsar yg akn dia wat kputusan sdiri without consult with u first.. |
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Post time 17-7-2017 11:47 AM
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Edited by sukalara at 17-7-2017 11:50 AM
tunangku replied at 17-7-2017 10:49 AM
Org ckp kucing menyebabkn susah mengandung
Penah dgr tak
Tp sudut saintifik x taula
Yes pernah dengar. Tapi kena jaga hygiene la. My sister doctor also pencinta kucing advice aku steps2 ni. Bila buang pasir dia pakai glove and mask. Thats why aku tak biar kucing berkeliaran dalam rumah. And lepas main dengan kucing aku pakai roller buang habuk kat baju untuk buang bulu2 kucing yang melekat kat baju. Even basuh baju pon aku pakai clorox tapi ratio 1:32 la. 1 clorox 32 water. |
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sabarnye you hadap boyfriend you ni, ke skrg bru u sedar perihal die mcm ni? 
your bf ni mcm selfish sgt. communication ni sgt penting dlm hbgn, and it goes both ways. you okay ke bf you ni dominate the relationships? i mean, u okay ke kene ikut je die ckp, without considering your opinion? because marriage involves a lot more than just pilih baju. |
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takdenya kena saman bela kucing kat kondo. jangan ganggu orang lain dah la. berlambak bela kucing kat kondo. alasan smata2 tu |
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Edited by ramaramu at 17-7-2017 11:52 AM
uols... pakaian kahwin to me is the least you should worry about.. u and partner kena give and take.. just because dia nak jadi suami u tak semestinya u kena jadi yes man jer.. mula2 baca ur post i tot of telling u to run away but bila baca ur second post i was like hmm ok i think u x blh xde dia kot..
honestly bila u justify yg dia speak arab fluently and none smoker tu i rasa xde kene mengena la kot.. but at the end of the day it is ur life and ur decisions. but honestly kalau hidup suami isteri ni kena buat keputusan bersama.. bukan dah decide baru bincang.. hopefully in the future dia akan refer to u first before buat decisions for both of you..
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i sokong u...rase xberbaloi nk end of this relationship sbb2 tu je..boleh bawak berbincang...cakap serius dgn dia..kalau btol dia sayang tt...dia akan tolerate..dlm relationship yg plg penting adlh komunikasi...kann..
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ramaramu replied at 17-7-2017 11:50 AM
uols... pakaian kahwin to me is the least you should worry about.. u and partner kena give and take. ...
Non smoker is important to me BTW thanks for your advice. I will think about it.
Saya faham semua advice yang diberi forummer. Cuma untuk putus begitu sahaja is not an easy task. Sebab item 1 and 2 dia dah agreed untuk berbincang and give a win-win situation for both sides. And pasal rumah for the time being solution yang dia beri seperti posting kedua aku. Dia cakap after kahwin around 2 years untuk survey together a landed house and combined loan memandangkan duduk berdua baru.
Cuma item no 3 maybe we need to sit down and discuss. If putus sebab kucing, macam sadis pulak rasa. |
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Gila king control. X kawen lagi Allah dah tunjuk sesikit so yu boleh imagine la ur life dah kawen nanti. Sesilap nak balik umah mak sendiri pun x kasik. So TT pikir la bebaik ye. |
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bel146 replied at 17-7-2017 11:52 AM
i sokong u...rase xberbaloi nk end of this relationship sbb2 tu je..boleh bawak berbincang...cakap ...
Yes. Exactly. Thank you |
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nipskacang replied at 17-7-2017 11:49 AM
sabarnye you hadap boyfriend you ni, ke skrg bru u sedar perihal die mcm ni?
your bf ni mcm se ...
Hi dear,
Thanks for your idea. At certain things and situation I'm okay for the guy to be dominant. Sebab aku memang jenis suka if lelaki yang lead the way. But not being conquered of course. Nak ade communication both sides. Btw you laki ke perempuan? Bukan most lelaki ego ke chuols? |
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Lepas baca posting kedua uol, iols rasa bf uol tu okay ja. Boleh bawa discuss lagi tu. Dominan sikit2 tu biasalah kan. |
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Iols setuju dgn pandangan uols..imo, TT awal2 dah cerita the bad sides of her bf so no wonder lah kita pun jadi judgemental..but then TT cerita pulak his good sides, so iols rasa TT sendiri pun dah ketemu jawapan sebelum bukak thread ni kot..sbb i don't think selama 7 tahun ni TT tak nampak his true color sikit2..just that TT rasa was2 bila nak dekat2 kawin ni..tu je kot..huhu
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Baca part baju tu aku rasa kau ngada2..tp bila point 2 and 3 aku rasa nk lempang bakal laki kau...sikit pon xde rasa considerate...aku ni bukan pencinta kucing...tp kalau org dr awal dh bagitau dia cintakan pet or hobby yg x bwk harm...kalau aku terima mmg aku akan terima..kalau aku x terima dr awal2 aku angkat kaki..psl runah tu lg berderau..hello dia laki patutnya dia la berkorban. Ko x ngandung lg nnt ngandung ko tau la hazab mcm mana commute berjam2 tiap2 hari.... |
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i girl laaa sistur. hehe, i see. but you have to have some pride for yourself you know? if u tolerate too much, your bf wont respect u and your decision.. kahwin ni takes two to tango, and involves a lot more of dicussion and respect. are u willing to go through hidup you yang you dont have the right to say no? i know it must be hard, but u are responsible for your own happines okay. u bincg la dgn bf u, kalau u see no point in having a discussion, please go on with your life. its okay to wait long, than to marry wrong.
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sukalara replied at 17-7-2017 11:38 AM
Hi melinda,
Yes of course i do love him. 7 years relationship kan tipu lah tak sayang. But I h ...
Kalau majority dalam ni ckp tak worth.. would you accept that? Worth or not depends on your own judgement. Sebab you dah kenal dia selama 7 years. Tpi i judge and giving my opinion dari statement awal you. For me he is totally blatantly selfish guy. From simple thing sampaila hal besar dan pasal you nk kena berulang alik jauh tu mmg sangat teruk bagi i. Dan siapa yg akan byr rumah tu nanti? dia sorang atau kongsi? Kalau sama- sama byr and you terpksa berulang mcm tu.. mana pegi consideration dgn pasangan. You prempuan kot. |
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